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Lesson 3B: He's Just So Weird

Lesson 3: Part B: He’s just so weird.

 

Question 1: The author uses a strong metaphor, describing high school students as "wild beasts roaming the plains," hunting each other. How would you describe your high school experience?

I was a shy, introvert most of the time. When I was with my friends, I was kind of kooky. I was the smart girl with all the guys for friends but no boyfriend. I got picked on some but that was mostly in elementary school. I had too much going on my life to worry about gossip and junk. I worked fulltime, was in several after school activities, and kept my grades at honors level.

 

Question 2: The author says she has "been a victim of harsh words and stinging insults." Why do you think she would help inflict the same kind of harm on another person? Why would the author feel worse as the "hunter" instead of the "hunted"?

It happens a lot. The bullied becomes the bully. The victim becomes the victimizer. Isn’t it better to be the one hurting someone else than getting hurt yourself? But then you realize what you have done. You have become the beast you hated most, the one thing that haunted your nightmares.

 

Question 3: Name the superficial reasons that caused the clique to socially isolate Ethan. Are the reasons fair? Is there something Ethan could have done differently?

OMG! Ethan had long, greasy hair and ZITS! They could not be seen with someone like that. There goes their social standing. Unfortunately this is not fair. Ethan cannot help how the gods made him at this age. He may become a fashion model later, but right now he is a social wreck.

 

Question 4: Have you ever witnessed a classmate or peer publicly rejected? How did the person react? How did you react?

Yes. Imagine 20 years after graduation. You would think these people would have grown up by now. NOT! One of my friends at our class reunion was outed as being gay. Big deal. We all knew it. But some jock with no life and his cheerleader wife (who is fat now and a drunk) thought to make a big deal out of it. But my friend kept his cool and stayed calm and classy. I wanted to go take my spiked heel and knock him in the head.

 

Question 5: Why do you think the "Huggy Bears" felt sad after the prank? Why didn't they discuss what happened?

They hopefully realized how stupid their prank was and how much it hurt Ethan. They were all ashamed of themselves. They had lost a good friend all because of something superficial. If they had discussed it, they would have realized even more how wrong it was.

 

Question 6: Do you think the incident led to Ethan's difficulties with social anxiety and depression?

If Ethan already was genetically inclined to these disorders, then this stunt could have brought them on early. It could even magnify their harm on Ethan. The incident definitely did not help in any way. Ethan had thought he had friends. Then they betrayed him. That would cause damage in anyone.

 

Question 7: When someone is hurt as badly as Ethan, is it important to apologize or to try to make amends? What makes an apology meaningful?

Of course it is important to apologize. And it had better come from deep inside your heart and soul. You should tell them how stupid you were to do whatever you did. You need to let them know you have been thinking about the reason you would do something so bad and explain your conclusion.

 

Summary

Too tall, too short, too fat, too skinny, too smart, too dumb … there will always be something someone can find “wrong” with you if you let them. You have to love yourself for all your faults. You will still get hurt. But it’s easier to handle the emotions afterwards. Remember the rhyme “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Well, let me tell you, words do hurt. So throw stones, they hurt more! >;)

 

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